Things I have learned Day #7 (oops)

#7. Just letting your wife know your listening really is what matters the most to her

So Catie was talking to me about a small problem she was having with someone and how she was really hurt by the what was said to her. I was listening but my problem was that I wasn't really saying much because I didn't really agree that she should be upset about anything at all. To me the comments made were not that big of a deal to make a "fuss" over (or at least that is how I saw it). So Catie got a bit frustrated with me and asked why I wasn't listening. I said I was listening but really didn't have anything to say. So she was irked and I was getting irked (because I really was listening and she was telling me I wasn't).

So I went upstairs for a minute and then came down and said, "Look I am sorry you feel hurt by those comments that person made to you. I personally don't agree with your reaction 100% but I still love you." I wanted to say more but I had nothing else to say... which was apparently ok because Catie told me "Ok, thank you that is all you needed to say".

So apparently, if you let your wife know you are listening even if you disagree. Things will work out better.